Parish Diary
Fr. Peter J. Daly
4/27/99
A year ago, after the school
shootings in
A lady in our parish who is a
trained counselor came forward and offered to host a listening and training
session for junior high school students and their parents. She thought that it could help us identify
possibly violent situations and tell our young people what they could do about
them. It seemed like a heaven sent
idea. We scheduled a Monday night
meeting at the beginning of the school year.
We put a notice in the bulletin.
I made announcements form the pulpit.
No one came.
We figured that it had just been a
bad night. So we tried again.
This time we sent out notices as
well as the other means of publicity. We
got four families and their children.
Considering that we have at least
100 families with teenage children in the parish, it was a disappointing
showing.
I chalked it up to a "pastoral
learning experience" and thought no more about it. No more, that is, until
The media did the usual
interviews. They all sounded like the
previous shootings. We have heard it
before. "This is such a nice
community." "This is such a
lovely school." "We never
would have dreamed that it would happen here." "Who would have thought it would happen
in such a nice place?" "We
moved here for the schools."
It is all true. They are nice communities. Just like mine.
We have a good school system, clean
and orderly. We have middle class
families in a semi-rural area. We have
hard working parents with jobs in the city and long commutes. Both parents working long hours and children
home alone for several hours per day. We
also have not much to do after the school closes down. A lot of pressure is put on the overburdened
school system to provide the social, athletic, moral and intellectual training
for all the children. Too
much pressure and too few resources.
Not to mention
the lack of religious training or moral values in the lives of
our children and in our schools. Worst
of all our middle class homes have easy access to guns. Lots of them.
All these things and many more
contributed to each tragedy. If there
were such a tragedy where I live, the interviews would be just the same. "We never would have dreamed that it
would happen here."
The more I thought about it, the
more worried I got. These things are
preventable. They are not like
hurricanes or earthquakes that we cannot stop.
They are acts of man, not God.
The Sunday after the killings I preached about the
school violence. I reminded the parish
of our training
sessions on school violence the previous year and that hardly anybody showed up.
"This year," I said,
"if you want your kid confirmed in this parish, the parents and the
children must attend a workshop on school violence and ways to prevent it. And
don't come whining to me when your kid can't be confirmed here because you
didn't attend."
I made the promise. Now we have to deliver a program that is
worth the time of all those parents and students. We will.
But even just the act of getting everybody together to think about it
will be useful. We are not just going
to let things drift along. We know from
sad experience that it can happen
here. In nice
communities just like mine. Especially if we do nothing to stop it.